Lasting Change For Early Quitters, Burnouts, The Unmotivated, And Everyone Else Too
When I decided to start exercising consistently 10 years ago, this is what actually happened:
I tried "getting motivated." It worked sometimes.
I tried setting audacious big goals. I almost always failed them.
I tried to make changes last. They didn't.
Like most people who try to change and fail, I assumed that I was the problem.
Then one afternoon--after another failed attempt to get motivated to exercise--I (accidentally) started my first mini habit. I initially committed to do one push-up, and it turned into a full workout. I was shocked. This "stupid idea" wasn't supposed to work. I was shocked again when my success with this strategy continued for months (and to this day). I had to consider that maybe I wasn't the problem in those 10 years of mediocre results. Maybe it was my prior strategies that were ineffective, despite being oft-repeated as "the way to change" in countless books and blogs.
I was right.
Is There A Scientific Explanation For This?
As I sought understanding, I found a plethora of scientific studies that had answers, with nobody to interpret them correctly. Based on the science--which you'll find peppered throughout Mini Habits--we've been doing it all wrong.
You can succeed without the guilt, intimidation, and repeated failure associated with such strategies as "getting motivated," New Year's Resolutions, or even "just doing it." In fact, you need to stop using those strategies if they aren't giving you great results. They don't work because they all require you to fight against your subconscious brain (a fight not easily won). It's only when you start playing by your brain's rules and taking your human limitations seriously--as mini habits show you how to do--that you can achieve lasting change.
What's A Mini Habit?
A mini habit is a very small positive behavior that you force yourself to do every day; its "too small to fail" nature makes it weightless, deceptively powerful, and a superior habit-building strategy. You will have no choice but to believe in yourself when you're always moving forward. The barrier to the first step is so low that even depressed or "stuck" people can find early success and begin to reverse their lives right away. And if you think one push-up a day is too small to matter, I've got one heck of a story for you!
Aim For The First Step
They say when you aim for the moon, you'll land among the stars. Well, that doesn't make sense, as the moon is closer than the stars. I digress. The message is that you should aim very high and even if you fall short, you'll still get somewhere. I've found the opposite to be true in regards to productivity and healthy behaviors. When you aim for the moon, you'll won't shoot because it's too far away. But when you aim for the step in front of you, you might just keep going and reach the moon.
I've used the Mini Habits strategy to get into the best shape of my life, read 10x more books, and write 4x as many words. It started from requiring one push-up from myself every day. How ridiculous is that? Not so ridiculous when you consider the science of the brain, habits, and willpower. The Mini Habits system works because it's how our brains are designed to change.
I relished the opportunity to share this life-changing strategy with the world. I loved writing Mini Habits. You'll see my passion in the content as well as the overall quality and presentation of the book.
Note: This book isn't for eliminating bad habits (though some principles could be useful for breaking habits). Mini Habits is a strategy to create permanent healthy habits. Some categories include: exercise, writing, reading, thinking positively, meditating, drinking water, eating healthy foods, etc.
Book sample note: The "look inside" Amazon preview lacks the cleanly spaced formatting of the actual Mini Habits book.
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Stephen Guise founded the award-winning* Deep Existence blog in 2011. He has been writing about and researching personal growth strategies since 2004. Stephen's articles have been featured on some of the world's most popular websites, including: Lifehacker, Mind Body Green, Problogger, Tiny Buddha, Dumb Little Man, and Pick The Brain, among others.
Fueled by his passion for personal growth and a penchant for in-depth research and analysis, Guise has developed an array of unconventional, result-driven ideas. In particular, his ideas of extreme willpower conservation, non-motivation-based action plans, multiple-cue habit formation, success-cycling, and "stupid small" steps form the unique foundation of his first-published--and second overall--book, "Mini Habits."
*Deep Existence was voted the #1 personal development blog of 2012 by White Dove Books readers and staff over 22 other nominees.
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Part 1 Introduction to Mini habits
How it Began: the one push-up challenge
For good habit only
A brief synopsis of Mini Habits
About habits and the brain
Part 2 how your brain works
slow-changing, stable Brains
A stupid repeater and a smart mananger
the prefrontal cortex
the basal ganglia
Part 3 Motivation Vs. Willpower
the many problems with "getting motivated"
why willpower beats motivation
how willpower works
Park 4 the strategy of Mini habits
using willpower the mini habits way
how mini habits expand your comfort zone
the two moments of resistance
mini habits in the moment
Part 5 the mini habits difference
mini habits can compete with your existing habits
small steps and willpower are a winning team
other methods will tell you it's ok to let up too soon
mini habits increase your self efficacy
mini habits give you autonomy
mini habits marry the abstract and concrete
mini habits destroy fear, doubt, intimidation and hesitation
mini habits create insane bonuses of increased
mindfulness and willpower
Part 6 Mini habits - eight small steps to big change
step 1 choose your mini habits and habit plan
step 2 use the why drill on each mini habit
step 3 define your habit cues
step 4 create your reward plan
step 5 write everything down
step 6 think small
step 7 meet your schedule and drop high expectations
step 8 watch for signs of habit
Part 7 eight mini habit rules
1 never, ever cheat
2 be happy with all progress
3 reward yourself often, especially after a mini habit
4 stay level-headed
5 if you feel strong resistance, back off and go smaller
6 remind yourself how easy this is
7 never think a step is too small
8 put extra energy and ambition toward bonus reps, not a bigger requirement
Final words
an optional modification
apply this strategy elsewhere
want more?
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开始行动的理由是最难找到的,因为目标的重量造成了巨大的压力。而一旦开始,我们会觉得似乎需要达到最初的目标才算得上成功,这就是我们不愿意启动那些让我们闻之色变的计划的原因。如果最终做不到,我们宁可不开始。
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