Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel as though you are constantly trying to avoid confrontation? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should remember this: It's not your fault. And you're not alone. In fact, the person you care about may have traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), such as emotion dysregulation, impulsive behavior, unstable sense of self, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. No matter how much you want to be there for your loved one, at times it can feel like you are walking on eggshells. This compassionate guide will enable you to: Make sense out of the chaos Stand up for yourself and assert your needs Defuse arguments and conflicts Protect yourself and others from violent behavior"Stop Walking on Eggshells"has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.
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保罗•梅森
著名心理医生,美国心理咨询协会、美国心理健康咨询者学会会员,现任威斯康星州惠顿圣方济各会健康服务中心副主任,从事心理咨询及治疗工作,在抑郁、注意力缺陷障碍、人格障碍的治疗方面成果显著。他关于边缘型人格障碍的研究成果已经发表在美国《临床心理学杂志》上,并有相关著作陆续出版,广受关注。
兰迪•克雷格
美国最有影响力的边缘型人格障碍患者自助网站的发起人和管理者。她通过自建的边缘型人格障碍患者网站(www.BPDCentral.com)和“欢迎来到奥兹国”(Welcome to Oz)边缘型人格障碍患者亲友在线社区自助团体,给边缘型人身边的亲友提供帮助和关怀。从专业的心理咨询到线下的互助活动,她帮助上万人混乱的生活回归正轨。
兰迪还经常参加电视访谈节目,并出版了《边缘型人格障碍患者亲友实用技巧指导手册》和《边缘型人格障碍家庭护理》等畅销书。
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布雷萧相信羞耻感同样会导致过度控制: 那些必须控制一切的人,其实是害怕表现出脆弱。为什么?因为将自己的弱点显露出来是一种羞耻。控制是一种方式,确保没有人可以来羞辱自己。这种行为不仅包括控制我们自己的思想、表情、感受和行动,还包括尽力去控制他人的思想、感受和行动。
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